Our carpets smelled fresh and the general filth level in our home dramatically decreased. Your boyfriends are showing absuive behavior towards the pets. So here is the problem: My dog loves animals. I need advice please!!! So now I find that every time we watch a movie or do anything shes right there on the couch with him while Im the third wheel. My wife blames my 13 month pitt for everything that is chewed up regardless of where its laying at. You never really know what mood theyll be in! Get the dog a doggy bed and keep him off of yours. It was insane. (Him not liking your dog is a stupid reason if thats it, and I agree with your family if that is the case). Thanks. I cant lead myself to believe that most women would rather be alone with a dog than have a significant other in their life. I have hired a contractor to place a wall between the one and two car garage so that the dog can have its own space and so the my husbands yard and hunting supplies would not hinder me as I get into my car. Out of the 6 rescues I had, they lived a long life and began passing away. Not to mention animals belong outside, they are meant to be outside. I dont vacuum as often as I should. Perhaps its strange to see farmed animals that way, but its not so strange to see non-human family members such as cats and dogs in that way. We couldnt crate her at night because shed crap all over herself. Well I cant use yelling as a tool for behavior changes because it doesnt work long term and it is not in my nature to respond like that. Anyway good luck. Poopsie. There is some anthropomorphising going on here but in the most negative and stupid way! Even with cats there are probably more people out there who dislike cats than like them. Challenging for sure when polar opposites. I could never get a night sleep, because they would be jumping on and off the bed, start whining in the night, wanting to go out to pee in the middle of the night. Maashuuq: An intense Urdu nickname for your lover. Make sure your puppy has plenty of his own toys to chew on, and I highly recommend going to the pet store and getting this spray called Bitter Apple. Subscribe me to the GoodTherapy.org public newsletter. Trying to force me into doing these things with threats and a bunch of sh*t talking to me. Third, were able to see animals as beings who not only matter in themselves, but who also have rights, such as the right to life, or the right to bodily integrity, or even the right to liberty. As long as you can strike a fair balance that ensures your pets needs are met, consider giving your partner a pass on nightly pet duties. The steroids made her urinate excessively, unbeknownst to us. :(. The dog is also due for a bath as he has farttles (fecal excrement that clings to the fur immediately surrounding the anus) hanging off his rear, but she will not bathe him. I informed him several times that the dog smells. (Hunting in their breeding and we cannot predict what a jr will do at all times in a human created abnormal (for them) environment. And not that I would EVER wish harm on an animal, but one good thing is, that your fiancees dog is old and will not live very much longer. Because when he finally gets in bed with me..I get good night I love you and not even cuddle me for 2 minutes and roll over and sleep. She flaps her ears all the time and wakes me up at night. I feel like she loves these cats more than she does me. If I argue with him that he needs to take care of these dogs he will just promise to help and will help out for one day then quit. I see, so the dog wasnt at his place when you met so that problem didnt come until later. There is None of the bad Chihuahua behaviors.Chihuahuas are the most loyal and humorous companions. My birds Ive had for 20 years. Isnt that crazy?! Me and my boyfriend have a 10 month old jack Russell Terrier mixed with a cocker spaniel. Years ago I had a niece who got some sort of virus infection on her nose that the doctor said was from her dog. My boyfriend loves this dog while I cant stand it. Both 4 years and my wife has one who is 5. I love animals, I just dont want anymore pets. I can live with that. It made me realize that we will never be able to have another dog in the picture, which is terrible because I had been thinking about getting my own dog for a while now. We got a dog 17 years ago because my wife and two kids wanted one. My husband lets them sleep in the bed. I just wish he would be nice and not threaten to throw them out the door when Im not here. Archived post. For example, every time shed drink water, she would use someones legs as a napkin. Very Hyopallergenic. I feel that that there is still a choice to be made about the dogs, they still live at the place that is there home, he has only visited them 3 times in the past year and we are going to set up our own place with our own furniture and our own life. But, there are enough anecdotes, both here and buried in other articles, that show dog fanaticism like any fanaticism is unhealthy. $('.submenu3').hide(); Its all good in theory and they always say Well take care of them Well pick up the poop ya right, been there done that not doing it anymore. However, it hasnt gotten too cold for her to decide that on her own and she instead does a lot of in/out, sometimes 4 or 5 times a night (before bed). After I had my baby he prefers to stay by the dog and not usthe dogs doesnt sleep in the bed anymore but she sleeps in our room. I see many people on the internet constantly ranting about how they think animals are these so-called "gods", how all humans are Your dog doesnt need a leash.. I tell him she was with me before we met, he hates her because my ex got her for me. He has to have some way to release his energy. i just feel that a lot of time goes to these animals and thats taking away time from our marriage. if the puppy pees I get yelled at. By accepting all cookies, you agree to our use of cookies to deliver and maintain our services and site, improve the quality of Reddit, personalize Reddit content and advertising, and measure the effectiveness of advertising. I wanted to give people here a here a different outlook about pets, Chihuahuas and perhaps love itself. You hate him! End discussion. It barks constantly and urinates all over if not crated when no one is home and chews up my Gfs socks and underwear if given the chance. Show intitiative. Refuse to have them? When she says I murdered it shes not being facetious; she literally believes, and has said repeatedly, that putting that dog down was dog murder despite the vet thought it was long past time. If my husband would meet me halfway and at least hold the baby long enough for me to take the dog out then he wouldnt have the occasional accident now. He doesnt clean it when he does, I do. He had to have the dog in the bed, and the world revolved around this little beast. My boyfriend and I have been dating for around 4 years and his mother was very sick with cancer during this time. you dont want the dog becoming agressive..thats responsible of you.men are so selfish.maybe he got the dog to try to make u jealous and since youre bonding with the dog it upsets him.i cant say what the best thing to do is but i would take the dog and leave.lol.in my case my husband had this totally spoiled bad mannered rescued dog that he knew was abusd and wasnt right in the head from before we met..i guess it filled a void of lonliness in his life but he didnt try to train it and just allowed it to have free run of everything it was agressive before he got it and he did nothing to retrain it..ive never felt safe around the dog because i have kids.anything i tried to do to train the dog he undid by allowing the dog to disobey me and even run me out of our bed at night..letting it continue to be a god walking among mortalssigh..i kept telling him i dont feel safe ..if youre not going to help me retrain the dog then it needs to be rehomed because its not safe around kids and youre not helping me any progress i make is undermined..he accused me of hating the dog even said i wanted it dead..that was not ever what i wanted.he put the safety of our kids second to his spoiled bad petyet he refused to take any time with the dog to help re train himi posted here looking for advice last week..i felt this dog would harm one of my kids eventually because it nips playfully and my husband never took my concerns seriouslytwo days ago the unthinkable happened ..the dog jumped out and bit my two year old in top of the head for no reason what so ever and as fast as i could move it was unstoppable..im just glad i got to him in time before it was worsebut my poor baby was mortified bleeding screaming it was awful..the wound is small but still if he is capable of that he will do it again and im jot willing to take that chance plus im pregnant too and i never wanted this dog around my babies especially a newborn..i kept being brushed aside like my concerns were a jokenow my baby has a wound that we have to watch for signs of infection..thank god its not serious but it drew blood and that was the last strawi told him this is it the dog must go or i willand even faced with pictures of what his dog did he was in denial about how bad this animal ishe made excuses like well maybe we should have walked him more or maybe the baby scared him what did the baby do for him to bite her.nothing.she did nothing. She paws and scratches at my side of th bed all night. He has had them about 8 years now. This sounds terrible but in less you are willing to spend the rest of your life taking care of her, the dog, your cat & whatever children you may produce you should get out before youre too deeply immersed into the relationship. Oops, I forgot! I have owned and loved pets all my life, as part of my family, but they never usurped my human family members. This works greatespecially if this is a smaller dog. But some people just won't shut up about their dogs, and post shitload of pictures of them online. There are no kill shelters, or maybe you can post pictures of the dog on social media and give him away to a loving home that will make the appropriate time to work on training him. The dependent brother has pets that are poorly trained and the inconsistency in treating of the pets and the resultant bad behavior frustrates me. A ten month old Puppy is not going to be a perfect dog. As for our brains vs a dogs, oh my goodness. Can I put my foot down? The dog cant stand up for himself but you can. If I discipline the dog I am scowled at!! The hair is floating everywhere and sticking to everything. As humans we are supposed to have some capacity of having emotional responses to animals that are completely different to those that we have of people! I have so was so hurt and mad at what she said to one of my friends. As for human loyalty. It has chewed a few things it shouldnt and I dont always feel enthusiatic about walks but its generally okay (only 8 months). I want the dog trained to be all right to be outside for longer periods of time in anticipation of trying to manage twins as they develop and also need floor space. Its just crazy! I can hardly stand the dog at all anymore but I love him to pieces! So with equal precision, I packed my stuff and left. Australian Catholic University provides funding as a member of The Conversation AU. Is that too much to ask? Also everything you have in life is because of people and much as you love Rover, an animal won't take care of you when you're sick and old. I would rather see the dog go to another home. I wanted to develop a close, strong emotional bond with her but I believe her dogs were a distraction to her and hindered the growth of our relationship. Animal Lovers Make The Best Relationship Partners I dont want to smell like dog and I dont want my furniture, sheets, or anything else to smell like dog. Im at my wits in because I totally resent him which spills over when we have an argument about something else. My question to you is: Your pet surely is not a happy animal in his given situation. How were we, the dog victims, supposed to know that our dog-obsessed partner would tell us to be quiet when our family doctor calls so that doggo can bark outside, instead of going out there and make the dog be quiet so that we can hear what our doctor is saying on the phone? So we tried a spray to make the couch taste bad so she wouldnt do it again. We are going round in circles and Im stuck in a situation where I love my partner to bits but cant stand his dog and feel its not fair to get rid of her and keep the puggle which might end up in resentment from my partner. Not to mention, it creates all sorts of issues for the dog. Just disturbing. All I want and preach to other people is compromise and Im still somewhere trying to find that. Basically, neither of our loved ones have the ability to set up boundaries for their dogs. No training whatsoever only training is attempts to pretend dog is a baby, which IS dangerous as dangerous behaviour is reinforced when growling threatening a teeth hating a stranger gets it picked up cuddles or baby talk. var js, fjs = d.getElementsByTagName(s)[0]; Thanks for positive feedback anyone and negative feedback thank you as well. Thats dangerous. Please treat them as such. Compromise does not work if you are asking someone to tolerate something they cant stand. Yet most of the time something will always get in the way. after a completely unprovoked barking and near biting episode her human said she just loves me and wants to make sure she protects me. hi question very similar problem. 9 Struggles We were the owners, the dogs did what we wanted no ifs ands or buts about it. Dont get the Bark Genie, the chihuahua barks right through it. Hes a neat freak and Ive got a miniature husky mix who sheds a lot. I honestly dont think that single people should get dogs because it poses much massive problems when it comes to trying to date or have relationships. Training an animal requires time and investment or you can easily cause more issues. Its a toxic environment that is not good for anyone. He wrote me a text saying that he wants a divorce. Lots of hugsxxx. Most Loved and Most Hated Pet Names But I do not require the companionship my finance seems to really seek in her life from an animal, her family had inside dogs growing up. I have had dogs and other animals my whole life. So if you find yourself second to an animal in a relationship, save yourself a lot of heartbreak and get out! Thats really nice of you to consider the undeserving little demon, to eat some where safe, dogs get use to what you teach them. I had always boarded my pets, knowing they didnt particularly like it, but they were safe and fed and were happy to see me when I returned. Not just activists, 9 out of 10 people are concerned about animal welfare in Australian farming. She was way obsessed about them with a bulldog pillow, bulldog painting, bulldog mugs, bulldog statue, bulldog keychain, picture of her dead bulldog on her mantle along with his ashes, her company is named after her bulldog with its picture. They arent really bad and we dont allow them in the bedroom at night when we sleep. Neither of us like dog hair on our clothes, so hes not allowed on our couch or in our bed. Thank you for your comment, Kat. if you ignore her she gives a bark for attention and climbs on. height: 320px !important; @BK. There are some really nutty dog owners out there unfortunately! After you fall in love with someone, its kind of a package deal. The dog has to constantly be in his lap, and he is always calling for it. Even if your dog has biological problems, like my BFs anxiety-ridden dog, training really helps. newwindow.focus() But they do NOT comprehend what a human partner does. If you hate your spouses animals, you should leave. Do you seriously believe its normal to have a dog sleep in your bed and expect your partner accept it? New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. Anyway she left last nite and was angry about the way I answered her about some thing. My boyfriend brang home a 3 month old bitbull puppy female. Constantly needing constantly dumping her energy all over my home. Its to the point where if he does not get rid of her room, I am going to leave him. Like you said, everyone ignores the fact that different dogs are bred for different reasons. I dont understand why she even has him if she doesnt want to do anything with him. at night the dog climbs on her side of the bed and she even moves up to give her space !!!!! The dogs have plenty of bones and balls to chew on and play with, but he continues to chew on the carpet and also the curtains. I really need to do something about this because Im getting to the point where Im willing to give him away but I know this is something my boyfriend refuses to do. I dont understand it at all! He wont go on vacation because she doesnt like being boarded! This is why he isnt allowed in the upstairs area of our house, and hes definitely not allowed on our furniture. Furries are an excellent case study for the psychological principle of moral inclusion and how it relates to non-human animals. I can imagine that you are attached to the cat. Then they move into the attic and give us nightmares. This guy sounds ije a jerk. We have recently purchase a new home that has a 3 car garage. Because they are animals. I kept telling him,Dogs are expenisive, Blah blah HE KNEW I WASNT THRILLED with the idea of a dog. He still stays in his part of the house, and rarely ever has an accident except when I fail to take him out. The pigeon poop prevails! I cant stand the cat. Small, low-shedding breed thats easy to train, adopting an older dog to skip the puppy months, paying for it and its needs myself, made sure it was clear the dog wouldnt be allowed on the bed, etc, etc. Gah, I cant wait till she dies. Her dog, physically, is unique and lovable. As annoying as incessant barking is for your neighbors, its probably just as frustrating for your dog as well and can be a sign of anxiety and lack of attention. As for me and the dog, we still dont get along, Im trying to make it work but she tends to nip and Yelp at me, so we just leave each other alone. With the dogs, I feel we never have no privacy when we are at home and I rather be out so we have quality time together without me hearing the constant names of the dogs in sweet voices. Its been 6 weeks now, and I still sob. Im very attached to him. Psychology Today Says it all right there! However, the time comes that we are going to live on our own, which means he wants to have his dogs over there. We cant agree on where the dog can sleep, how much the dog can stay inside or even how much food to give the dog. With all due respect your familys safety is a million times more important than having to live with the odd discord of fitting in a hyper ear piercing farm animal that is unpredictably unsafe into your family home. Animals More Than People: Psychology I have tried to have the people in the house only let her in when she quiets but the four other people in the house respond differently giving inconsistent messages. Things worked ok for a while my wife complained about grass in the house so I invested in artificial grass to solve the problem. The dog recently bit a groomer (had to get stitches) and also viciously attacked my foot while I was trying to get my dogs toy away from him (he destroys toys instead of playing with them). I mean, dogs shed. My bf and I moved in together after 2 years of dating, (at the time I had a Chihuahua & a Shi-poohe had a Maltese mix). But Im not. Its always been my choice to let that happen, as I was single at the time of getting him. How many times has your human company shown physical aggression and chased away a dog? These people dont even really think for themselves. She tells me I am the one with issues if a dog being in the house is causing mental distress. And my poor dog is outside at 4 a.m. It doesnt like to be with anyone but my girlfriend, wont come out of its room unless my girlfriend is present. Id guess the number is zero. People hate cruelty to animals, so why do we do it? - The My neighbors tell me that they see my SO with the dog more then they see my child. An infectious virus is spreading through the sanctuary and you have to decide whether to kill one infected chicken or allow the virus to spread throughout the sanctuary, killing a larger number. Illegal hunters are a bigger problem on farms than animal activists so why aren't we talking about that? I think that dog fanaticism/fetishism is a growing mental disorder. Since I wrote my post on here I broke up with my GF. Pets are for life, or at least they should be. His response to this you can love my dog now. Says they are family members and hed a family member alive no matter what as well. No matter what you think youve experienced, nothing quite prepares you for the very loud, high-pitched screams of a fox during mating season. And one of the dogs, also keeps drinking from the toilet and chews up garbage from the trash can in the bathroom, even underwear! 4 sizes available. I could no longer stand the way my husband brought down her spirit. if( getClass1 == 'headSubmenuLinks' || getClass1 == 'headMenuLinksMob col' || getClass2 == 'headSubmenuLinks' || getClass2 == 'container' || $(event.target).is('.menu1') || $(event.target).is('.menu2') || $(event.target).is('.menu3') || $(event.target).is('.menu4') || getClass1 == 'fas fa-bars' || getClass1 == 'fa fa-chevron-circle-left left-align col s6 noPadding back' ) { I am an animal lover. Agatha First off your story doesnt make any sense. Walking, playing, feeding, etc and I clean more than he does for the fact that animals shed and I feel it is necessary to accommodate. Such a well behaved dog. Ive set boundaries in regards to the animal but my SO feels that they only apply when Im home (I travel for work). Waterfowl hunting and having a dog is too core to his personal needs to be an option. The hair drives me crazy!!!! It sounds as though you see relationships as being a tit-for-tat type of deal, and if thats all youve experienced in your life then I am sorry for you. Both of you need to get a hold of yourselves and purchase of beds for the good of the dogs and your relationship. animal advocate. It is nice, and I dont dislike it, but the problem is the hair. FYI, we are planning on living in an apartment :( Its just very stressful and need some advice I have been thinking about training, but i dont want that in our new house, because that will be pissed and ruined as soon as they are there, and I just want a clean house and not the additional stress of dogs around me. Now that Im almost 7 months pregnant I just get irritated with her. This is something personal to me. To say I fell in love with Oscar was an understatement, I was totally besotted by him, then 6 months later he was killed on the main road. I cant even count the number of times weve been out riding bikes on the They are DOGS, animals.. Not humans. I was tired of it jumping all over me when I got home from work and scratching my clothes, playing rough in the house, pulling so hard on walks, stealing food off the table, begging, sleeping in the bed, etc. He, of course, did nothing to help the situation but get irritated with me. The person who was apart of it Admit it was them. I sit there trying to enjoy dinner while watching her dog on the couch hovering over her plate! We Are All Animal Lovers - Sentient Media And this might continue into the future. We are supposed to get married next year and this whole dog thing is really starting to question my relationship. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. Now, I like dogs (smaller ones) and all but holy cow, within reason! Im not a dog person to begin with so I absolutely HATE to come home just to find new holes and new destruction. Normally, I should feel that i cant wait to have our own place, but not now. Its really a crutch. Its frustrating because anything we plan revolves around her dog and if we can leave him at her parents. Funny how they excepted us with our pets and now that things got more serious they want to change our situation. His dog is driving me so crazy I feel like Im going to have a stroke. There. Secondly, if its your dream to own a dog, I think you may want to expand your horizons a little bit.. I cannot tolerate it. Thankfully the cat is fine now. I hate my husbands cat and I wish hed get rid of it. My family hates all of my pets. She has put a section of the room with pads on the floor so the dog can go there to pee while we are at work. No I didnt want another dog and didnt have any plan to neuter my dog Caesar. When we would eat dinner shed sit with her nose at your plate. They can marry their damn dogs! Another issue is, I have been teaching the kids to not touch the dog during meal time to avoid the dog getting defensive and hurting the kids. How I talk to the cat and greet him(mind you, my husband went through a depression from losing his job and Id come home to his scowl looking face and Mango would run to me for his greeting-Im sorry? You are most likely just wasting your time in that relationship (or should I say what relationship?). My wife and I have disagreements about our dogs, but in the end its resolved because we have boundaries. Agree. How many points will I take away? Sorry, but theres no way I would ever let a dog come between me and my wife, especially one that weighs all of 5 lbs on a good day. Overtime I thought I started liking and loving the pet and that it was growing on me. Its really sad because dog owners who do this never care about how anyone else feels or about their own cleanliness and surroundings. Completely agree, do people really not realize that their human is there for life? Depicted as a light-brown dog, of various breeds, in full profile on all fours facing left, with a long, curled tail held upright and pointed or floppy ears. But Ive been in love with him for years and was all ready to marry him by the time I found out his dislike of dogs. People who defend the animal to the bitter end kill me. Cats are lovely, affectionate, adorable companions. Office Depot Coupon. Are you in CA? He gets crazy! He refuses to go anywhere the dog cant have full reign of. The dog doesnt know a leash nor rules. My first dog was older when they met and therefore very sedate, the second dog was not into people, other dogs, she was very reserved, so having a puppy around freaks him out. Pancho did this, Pancho did that, its non stop. WebHigh quality Pig Annoying People Pig Lovers-inspired gifts and merchandise. Itll be soooooooo much worse than it is now and youll wish you hadnt. I need rest because I have to work a 12 hour shift the next day. Its now six mos later, she weighs nearly twice as much than @ 10 mos, she is a joyful and loving fog, w/o a SINGLE BAD HABIT! He doesnt allow them in anymore and it KILLS ME. My boyfriend has a pit bull she is a nice dog. $('.headMenuLinksMob').toggle(); She doesnt have time to train even after we each went to classes on how to train it. Loyalty and being faithful is deeply embedded in my nature however and to be told in a blanket statement that all humans arent by someone who doesnt know me is incredibly rude. This dog has become spoiled. By rejecting non-essential cookies, Reddit may still use certain cookies to ensure the proper functionality of our platform. But weve started talking about marriage and a life together. Anyways, my solution to that problem when it happened was Im very sorry, I really do love you, but I also love him, and he was here first.
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